Let go of Anger
Holding on to anger can literally make us sick. In doing so, we learn to block all feel - good emotions, form resentment towards others, and climb on the roller- coaster of self - pity. Anger is our natural defense against pain and wrong - doing. When we say hateful words and react in a negative manner, what we are really trying to say is "You hurt me." If instead, we remember that we always have a choice, to react or not, to take a deep breath, and decide whether or not the situation even deserves a response, this will reduce the likelihood of us reciprocating to others that which hurt us in the first place.
This quote really put things into perspective for me
You will not be punished for your anger, you will be punished by your anger
Don't Victimize Yourself
This is on the top of the list in my opinion, to be the most difficult of all to overcome. Beware of self-pity. It is the quickest way to feel so sorry for yourself, that almost every aspect of your life seems hopeless. There is always hope. You are not helpless. You have survived thus far, and you are growing stronger and braver through each hardship. Make it a habit, as many times as you must, until you believe it, to repeat positive affirmations to yourself daily, more than once if necessary. Say things such as "I will get through this", "I am getting stronger", I can experience happiness", I am worthy." This will build your depleted emotional status into a healthier, sunny outlook on life. Choosing to hold on to those negative thoughts that were weighing you down, only links you right back to the 'hurtful' emotional feelings you felt before.
This quote is self-explanatory
What poison is to food, self-pity is to life
Oliver C. Wilson
You're probably thinking, huh, everything? Yes, everything. There is so much to be grateful for. We spend so much time wanting a different life, wishing for more money, that we cease to enjoy the very life we are living. Nature is always a great source of replenishing our energy and allowing us to connect with so much beauty that surrounds us everyday. As you wake in the morning, grab your cup of coffee and sit outside, listen to the birds sing you a melody, feel the warm sun on your skin, breathe in the air and the freshly cut grass. Bake one of your favorite goodies and walk it over to your neighbor. Let them know how much you appreciate them. Find ways to do a little home-improvement(cost efficient of course) and appreciate the roof over your head. Like I said earlier in my post, there is always, always something to be thankful for, all we have to do is look around us.
To me, the most important tip of all is learning to live in the moment of Now.
Accept and embrace each and every experience as a stepping stone that leads to wisdom, not as an obstacle in your way. Quit worrying about what you didn't get done yesterday or how you'll make ends meet tomorrow. Teach yourself to savor each moment, control what you are able to and let go of the need to look back. Remember: You're not going that way